You’re welcoming, hun. I am glad my advice was of help to you and that you kept on trucking! I wish you the best of luck in living life!
Tell em straight up to stop, you sound like a good person and I understand what it is to not want to hurt someone’s feelings. You need to tell him to stop, or threaten him with telling your boss. I know it might not feel right, but you need to know that even though it may be harmless, it’s making you uncomfortable and that is NOT okay. You have the right to say no and to be in a comfortable working environment. I suggest you warn him about how this bothers you, if he still insists, threaten him by saying you’ll tell the boss and if that doesn’t work, tell your boss, you at least gave him fair warning! Anyways I wish you the best of luck, sweetie!
Look, things like this can happen. All I can say is be patient. I know it sounds impossible to do, especially because you are a good friend and worry, but that’s all you can do. If it makes you feel better, send her the letter, but nothing more. Wait a month or so, you don’t know what situation she is in, so don’t start speculating things, until you hear it from her, or it’s been waaaay too long. Trust me, I don’t hear from people in a really long time but it doesn’t mean they are gone off the face of the earth, sometimes they have a good reason why this happens. SO I suggest, sit tight and just wait, live your life like you normally will, and she will eventually resurface. good luck!
Look, what you did was a good thing but the way she made you look wasn’t. You need to talk to her and tell her that she needs to learn how to take care of herself and be nicer to you when it comes to this kind of thing, I can imagine how uncomfortable it felt when you were cornered to purchase something that didn’t concern you. You can’t be always her knight in shinning armor when it comes to it, either she learns to 1.wrap it up, 2. take birth control, 3. not do it at all. It may be easy for her to point to you to solve this problem but it isn’t your responsibility. If anything she should be grateful for this favor you are doing for her, if not her ego could be preggo and I really hope she learns from that lesson. I really hope you talk to her about it and tell her the true meaning of ‘bonding’ cause that’s not it. I wish you luck you sweet angel!
Being friends with an ex is only good, if you are both in good terms. Meaning you both have to disregard your feelings for each other. It’s obvious that you still feel attached to me and I suggest you try to resolve any of the emotions you have for him, such as ‘I have feelings for you’, or ‘I’m afraid I’ll gain feelings for you’. It’s better when someone gives you boundaries. Being friends with someone your still into is hard but if you can be strong then hopefully with time those feelings will diminish, but heads up you might still be hurt about not being able to be with him, just reason with him and tell him this bothers you, as friends. Good luck babydoll!
Awww you sound like any regular person who has a crush! It’s normal to be nervous around the person you like and if you guys do get close enough as friends, the whole being nervous around her thing, will die down eventually (or kept to minimum). I’m sorry to hear that she is not interested in girls, sometimes things like this happen! people you are interested in, will not feel the same due to sexual orientation and you need to respect that. I suggest you either admit to yourself that it may be nearly impossible to be with her because of her orientation and give up on perusing her, because it’s going to cause you heartache ):, or if you are not 100% certain she is heterosexual, bring in a conversation at some point with your friends about what would they think about dating another women. If her definite answer is ‘no’, there really isn’t anything you can do about, but being friends with her wouldn’t hurt. You’ll find someone you deserve babydoll, cause you’re worth it! I wish you the best of luck in finding a special lady!
Anon you need to know that you are a good person and you should not be treated like this. She sounds like she’s trying to take advantage of you and pushing you aside and practically abusing you and she doesn’t care. If she doesn’t consider your feelings and doesn’t treat you with the same respect, honesty and dedication you have put into your friendship, she isn’t worth being your friend. I’ve been in a situation where I’ve been lied, betrayed, and still hang around with the person hoping they would change but that never happened and we we’re super close friends. So close we we’re going to go to college together. I couldn’t stand they way she acted, the way she treated people, and the way she treated me. So what did I do? I told her the truth I said I couldn’t take it anymore and told her that she ruined what she had with me and that in the future I hope that she doesn’t treat her friends like she treated me. Did it hurt? yeah it did, I cried like a bitch for nights, because I missed her as a friend. In the end though, it was worth it, no more worrying, no more feeling bad about yourself and finally going out of my way to find better people. My suggestion is ask her to consider your feelings and if she still doesn’t, cut her off. I know it’s going to be hard but it’s better than being treated like crap especially when you don’t deserve it. You sound like a wonderful person and I believe that wonderful people should be friends with other great peoples, not jerkwads. I wish you luck, you beautiful person!